The main purpose of this book is to help you see the big picture. There are many pictures, diagrams and illustrations that will show you how to prevent or roll back conflict. You will get a complete picture of the most common quarrels between couples, as well as see ways to end the conflict. For quick assimilation of the material, all tools and methods are provided with illustrations.
My goal is to teach you and your partner how to move easily into constructive dialogue. A good tip is to read the book with your partner, or at least take turns. This will help the common cause of establishing long-term peace.
As you read this book, you will notice that many concepts are interrelated. You may even think that these are different ways of saying the same thing. However, only a few of them are right for you.
I tried to share approaches that have become salutary for different people. As you read these pages, I hope you and your partner have an insight to help solve the problem.
Finally, a final warning. In especially difficult cases, when the conflict has developed over the years, the help of a professional may be the only salvation. If you are feeling severely traumatized, do not refuse to see a family counselor. This is not as scary as it might seem. I often meet couples who regret not coming ten years earlier. The more time passes, the more difficult it is to regain lost love and trust. Don't put off possible help until later. Tell the scandal "Stop!" right now.